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"The Queen Bee Syndrome," is where women who have attained senior positions do not use
their power to assist struggling young women or to change the system, tacitly validating it.
As Elizabeth Pugel's article called "Points of Derailment: The Making of a Female Physicist,"
(October, 1977) http://www.aps.org/apsnews/1097/1014.html further states:
"We live in a time where people are starting to acknowledge that stereotyping at any stage from
birth along the way of career development is neither helpful nor appreciated."
"We are living in a time where our men have realized the importance of supporting women and
our mothers have realized the poor logic used to keep women from pursuing their dreams."
As soon as I finished reading Elizabeth's article, I was sure there is a future for women in
all career disciplines. I am sure the days of yesterday have played out its course for
equality for men and women alike. Today all doors are open to opportunity and if we monitor
our advances statistically, we can surmise gender focus no longer exists. No more will women
kick and claw their way up to the top and step on and over women before them. Hand and hand
each of us will route and map our path and provide a clear road to success. Yes, each of us
will do our part to insure generations of women can reach their respective dreams. Yes, each
of us will help her and each of us will not look back at the gender-modeling of yesterday.
Yes, and if we choose to represent ourselves as individuals, we can depend on our femininity
to be as much a part of our success, as that of expertise.
But, maybe not...
As I went into our business community to discuss this article, I received the following
email from Isabella:
I have actually had quite a few bad experiences with "queen bees." I don’t know what
it is but it seems that majority of women in senior positions or managers are so mean and
uptight. They were so terrible that it would cause me to quit my job because of all the
stress and hostile environment. I don’t know why they act like that. I honestly believe
that they think in their minds that the younger person is going to put them out of a job
or that we may be smarter than they are. Whatever the case, it's wrong to act that way.
My thing is, can't we all just get along? I understand completely that they may have
struggled to get where they are and demand respect for it but so have I and I don’t carry
myself in that manner. It’s all together the wrong attitude to have. Well that’s enough
for me. I have work to do. Thanks for letting me vent. Sincerely, Isabella M. Sevilla
Could I be wrong?
Can I be sure the days of yesterday have played out its course for
equality for men and women alike. Are we, as women in business, making it easier for
our own employees to juggle their career and family? Are we promoting our own women
employees as fast as possible? Do we still look for employees who can work long hours and
dedicate their personal time to thinking about "the business?" Could Isabella be right that
women still stab women in the back for personal gain? Are we still building hives with one
"queen bee," and making all the other "honey bees" find another hive where they have a
chance to become the "queen bee?"
Yesterday has taught me what is important in building a business. Today is my chance to
lead another woman into business. I have had both success and failure and with each have
learned valuable lessons. I have a legacy to pass on. That legacy now presents itself in
a cooperative alliance formed with another successful woman in business where we help her
sister begin her business. We are designing a website, handling all the registrations for
domains, shopping cart, merchant account setup, putting in a customer accounting system and
advising her on various business decisions necessary to legally protect her business. We
have hope that through our experiences, the sister will not have to waste time on a learning
curve and further push her into upward growth mode.
As our cooperative alliance works in the background, the sister is able to concentrate on her
dream of independence. She will soon realize the fruits of her efforts produced. One
woman owned business at a time. That is all it will take. We realize we can't change the
world. We realize we can change a few things about the world...and we started by writing
down each step as we develop her sister's business. We realize, in writing, what every failure
taught us in the past.
I am sure there is a future for women in all career disciplines. I am sure the days of
yesterday have played out its course for equality for men and women alike. What I'm not
sure of is whether or not each new woman in businesss will seek out experienced mentors and
allow another woman to help her reach her goals.
There are many woman like Carol and I who dedicate our lives to freely mentor other women
in business. All a woman needs to do is ask for help...realizing she is not alone, nor
does she have to make her own mistakes to be a success.
I say, there is no need for a Queen Bee in business or in a career....only mentors who
clear the way for women who want success and family. It starts today because Queen Bees
belong in a Bee Hive. Successful women belong on a level playing field! Let us rejoice
in the changes from "yesterday," TODAY.
To your continued success,
Deb Nyberg, Entrepreneur
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